Will your lifestyle allow for love?
When you live a healthy and fit lifestyle, you will always deal with the people who don't exactly agree with your list of priorities. You hear the "Oh wow, how do you have time for the gym?" and "I could never find the time for all of that preparation", or even "it won't kill you, just eat it". I hear it all the time, especially coming from an 100% Greek family. Luckily, they have gotten used to it, and actually leave me alone, especially during contest prep (this could also be that they are little scared for their life if I am a combination of hungry and tired). Families are forced to love you no matter what, in most cases, so they are the least of your problems. I always find it interesting when it comes to relationships or dating when you hold fitness and health as such a high priority. I have been both in a relationship and single during improvement seasons and contest preps. They both have their ups and downs. When the rest of your friends are out living it up, it does help to have that one person that can just hang out and relax on a Friday night or even take the Saturday night Sam's club trip with you. I am not sure if I could ever date someone who didn't at least go to the gym on a regular basis. Someone would need to understand that I need to do cardio or get a workout in, or understand why I want to bite his arm because I haven't eaten in 3.5 hours. On the being single end, it is kind of nice to not have to worry about the other person, and if their feelings will get hurt if you can't make an event because you would rather sit at home with your heating pad, advil, and your television. I am always working, being that I am a trainer and online coach, so my phone and email are dinging 24 hours a day with questions, concerns, meltdowns, pictures, and anything else you could possibly imagine. I will be honest, it does get a little lonely when you want someone to hang out with that understands that you can't have wine or eat sushi, but you make do. No matter what, this is your lifestyle, so if you are in a relationship then the other person will accept that this is your passion and its important to you; and if you are single, then you know how much this lifestyle means to you, so that's a reward in itself. Always stay true to you, and everything else will fall into place. Approval will not come from others, especially when you think you really need it. In the same token, you can't really force your life and priorities on other people. You will encounter people that do not share your views whatsoever. Sure, you can try and "save" them, but they have to want it for themselves. Its all about acceptance, of yourself, of others, and of life. Don't worry about things beyond your control, just focus on what is in your hands, even if its just a set of dumbbells.